"entahlah, tak tahu kenapa dia....."
sedih jugak walaupun sendiri pegang motto *say NO to COUPLE!*. justeru, dengan semangatnya tak tunggu lama, terus klik dekat article 6 Signs Your Guy is Cheating. mari kita lihat apa isinya..
It’s every woman’s worst relationship fear — that her man is cheating. We’ve all heard the statistic: half of all men cheat. And some experts say that number is even closer to three quarters. Could it be happening to you? Aside from finding lipstick on his collar, a mysterious c***** in his pocket or, yes, a phone number on a napkin (helpful hints but unlikely clichés!), there are some red flags to watch out for to tip you off that something fishy might be going on. The following are six signs that should raise your eyebrows:
1. He’s Acting Differently
The most telltale sign of a cheating man is that he’s acting differently than the way he used to. If any of the signals below describe your guy’s usual actions, don’t freak out and immediately assume he’s having an affair; he’s probably just being his quirky self. What you should be suspicious of is new developments, says Barbara Feld, a couple’s therapist at Park Avenue Relationship Consultants in New York City. She says you should ask yourself,
“Is what’s happening different than normal?
"Is he showing a real change in behavior?”
It’s when he starts to be that way and never was before that you should start asking questions.
2. He’s Avoiding You
If your guy has suddenly started coming home much later, seems to be making excuses to be out of the house, starts going away with out you on the weekends, or just generally seems to be avoiding you, that’s a clear indication of trouble in your relationship. M. Gary Neuman, a licensed family counselor and the author of “The Truth About Cheating” found that 61 percent of cheating men said they started spending more time away from home. 55 percent of men about to cheat said the same thing. No matter how busy your guy may be, he should be making an effort to see you (because, hello – he loves you, right?). If he’s stopped making time for you, it’s not at all unreasonable to wonder if he’s making time for someone else.
3. this part rasa macam kurang appropriate nak tempek dekat sini.. skip la eah..
4. His General Response to You Has Changed
If a guy is having an affair, he may stop acting like the sweet, romantic man you fell in love with. Maybe he used to be very loving and kind towards you, but now he seems to get annoyed easily, be critical, or pick fights. If he’s consistently not being affectionate with you, don’t brush it off. Try to figure out why he’s different – and what could be distracting him, or making him feel guilty.
5. He Has Suddenly Become Very Private
It’s just not normal for your guy to always go into a different room to answer calls, keep his cell phone in his car, or get really private about his bills (unless, of course, your man is a privacy freak and you knew that going in). But if he suddenly stops checking his e-mail in front of you, has turned the bathroom into a phone booth, and has redirected the bills to his office, it’s a fair guess than an affair is under way.
6. He is Unreliable
Quite simply, says Barbara Feld, “is he where he says he will be?” If he’s never where he says he’s going to be, it’s a certain sign he’s lying to you about something. Maybe he says he’ll be at the office, but you call and he’s not there. Or he says he’s with a friend, and that friend then calls looking for him. Everyone’s plans change sometimes, but if your guy is consistently not where he says he will be, it’s very possible it’s because he’s with another woman.
What to Do?
If your guy is showing any of these six signs, talk with him about it. Tell him things feel different than they used to, and you want to know what’s going on. “If he tells you everything is fine but you know it’s not, continue to pursue the issue,” says Barbara Feld. “You can also suggest, ‘let’s talk to someone together,’ and get couples therapy.”
Don’t turn a blind eye on your relationship. If things are bad, getting bad, or just feel strange, do something about it. Even if you guy isn’t having an affair, all the signs above could be signals that he’s about to. By addressing – and working with him to fix – whatever is going on in your relationship, you can prevent an affair from ever happening in the first place. If you’re noticing negative changes or problems in your relationship, address them now, while they’re still small. Maintaining a strong relationship with open communication is one of the best things you can do to ensure fidelity—both on his part, and on yours.
kahwin tu bukan untuk suka-suka hanya sebagai syarat menghalalkan sesuatu perhubungan. tapi more to expand a relation. that's why kalau nak kahwin, bagi yang perempuan, biasanya orang akan cakap..
... siapa kata perempuan tak mengamalkan cheating? ada.. dalam kalangan kawan sendiri pun ada. tapi kenapa asyik lelaki je yang kena, bukan perempuan? kenapa? sebab lelaki biasanya dikaitkan dengan ego, licik.. (no hard feelings please..) jarang perempuan dilabelkan macam tu. tapi ikutkan edaran zaman sekarang ni alaf 21, millenium, konfem ada antara kaum perempuan yang sudah menang title tak best disebut tadi. jawapan pada semua masalah ada dalam diri setiap pasangan tu sebenarnya. kekuatan iman jadi kayu ukur. Allah jadi tempat bersandar. asal kita pegang pada rukun iman, rukun islam dan yakin dengan DIA, insyaAllah kebahagiaan datang sentiasa.. insyaAllah.
oh ya! lupa.. i'm getting older la asyik dok lupa je.. credit to Amber Madison from BettyConfidential.com for the article..
aha! 1 more.. orang putih kalau discuss pasal relations sure konfem its a relation before marriage.. tapi dalam konteks post malam ni, menjurus kepada after marriage.. remember the motto, *say NO to COUPLE!* =)
